The topic of love at first sight being a misunderstanding has been preached long before I picked up a pen and paper. However, I believe love at first sight does exist and that it is far beyond what we call romance.
Contrary to what popular songs, films, and literature demonstrate you cannot romantically fall in love with another just by first sight. What you’re really feeling is attraction by that person’s physical appearance. There is nothing wrong with being physically drawn to someone. Just like an onion there is the pretty surface, but there are further layers to peel back. Romantic love requires just that- getting to know somebody with time. Upon first meeting somebody you are not going to learn their deepest, darkest secrets. Knowing everything the first day might scare somebody off.
This is simply opinion, but the only couple who I believed could have loved one another at first sight were the first man and woman Adam and Eve. Why, because according to the Bible the two were quite literally a part of one another.
“And the Lord caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the rib which the Lord had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. And Adam said:’This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.'”- Genesis 2: 21-23
Going on about flesh, how about the love for your children when they are first born? Originally, I had something sweet and simple writen down for this, but I didn’t think I was qualified because respectively I don’t have a child to my name.
Hillary Brown, an elementary school teacher, said “Honestly, there is such a taboo of postpartum depression, but it’s a real thing, and affects more mothers than what it is ever talked about in the media. I think society expects all women to have a maternal, lovie dovie, rainbows and sunshine feeling towards their newborns, but they don’t. Often times like myself when I had my son(Titus) I felt the pain; fear; anxiety; and resentment all before I felt any euphoric type of love.”
Brown said that she loved her son when she had him, meaning she would have given up anything to keep him safe and alive, but she did not feel the infatuated emotion of love until later. She said the love she has for Titus now is not stronger, but different.
“Now I do have that overwhelming infatuation, obsessive, madly in love feeling with him because I have spent time with him to find all of the little gems of his personality.”
Brown explained that when it comes to romantic love it is the same concept because we are infatuated based on their personality and physical characteristics. She said the bottom line was that she doesn’t think you compare the loves between a child and a spouse.
“The love for the child will always be more because it is your flesh and blood, you created it, you nourished it in the womb and grew it inside you. That’s where the love at first sight comes in when a child is born. A mother sees her child and is instantly in love because it was once inside of her living and growing, and now all the dreaming and imagining of what the child looks like is now in front of her eyes”
I believe love is also a sense of respect. At a young age you are taught to treat others the way you want to be treated. You respect someone enough not to steal from them, speak ill of them, harm them, cheat them, despise them, kill them, etc.
“Real success is not on the stage, but off the stage as a human being, and how you get along with your fellow man.” -Sammy Davis Jr,
For those of you who believe in a higher power, what about the love God has for you? You may not have seen God physically, but He sees you not only physically, but mentally and spiritually. From the moment you were in your mother’s womb to now, He has loved you. He must truly be in love with you to send His son to die for you and millions more. God must have truly loved the first man and woman to not only make them in His image, but to also to give them residence in a garden of paradise called Eden.
Is love at first sight a real thing? Whether it’s love for your own flesh and blood, or a sense of respect for others, or God’s overwhelming love for you, it does exist.