7 Considerations Before Dating Him/Her

Spring time. A time for cleaning. A time for Mother Nature to strut her stuff. And supposedly the time to get bitten by the love bug.

Not a day goes by when I don’t see a Facebook relationship update. Too often I see the same people updating it every other week, month, or so forth? Some of us are so quick to jump into a relationship without giving it a second thought. Before you start a relationship, do you take any time to truly brainstorm; look this person over? If not, I am happy to lend you a couple considerations.

1. Do They Honor Their Parent(s)? If you’re crush is of legal age(18 years old) of course you can expect them not to do what their parents say in some regards. They’re grown. But should you ever get the chance to meet your crush’s parents, just watch how they interact with their folks. Do they play the first name game with their folks? I’m 25 years old, and to this day I dare not address my parents as Molly and Mike. No matter how old I get I was always address them as Mom and Dad. Better yet, does your crush talk to parents as if they’re talking to some peer? Are they gutsy enough to curse them out?  If they talk that way towards their folks, especially if they’re still living at home, what makes you think they are going to talk to you with any respect?

2. Are You Afraid to Be Seen With Them/Have Anyone know you’re with them? If you’re in a relationship with me, I don’t expect you to tattoo my name on your body or put our relationship status on a billboard, but I don’t want out relationship to be a secret either. If you’re embarrassed of me, then why are you with me? You shouldn’t care about what others think, but if you’re one of those people who does, then maybe pursuing this person isn’t in your or their best interest.

3. Do They Stress You Out? I know every relationship is going to have its ups and downs. It can’t always be hugs n’ kisses and sweet talk. What about now? If your crush tries your patience; makes the veins in your head throb; or makes you want to slap someone twice, imagine how much worse it could be if you take things to the next level.

Is having someone cute on your arm really worth looking like ol’ Sheldon here?

4. Can You Trust Them?

I think this is something everyone asks before and during a romantic relationship. Too often nowadays it seems like trustworthiness is a dying trait in human beings. My best advice in this regard is to simply pray about it. My heart aches for all those relationships that simmer away because one party trusted the other not to deceive, stray, or hurt them in any way.

5. Asking Yourself Repeatedly No names, but I myself have done this in the past. Over and over in my head it has been, “Should I date this person?”. In my opinion if you have to spend more than a few times debating about whether or not to date somebody, then it’s probably best if that door is left closed. 

6. Conversation. There is more to a romantic relationship then physical intimacy. Relationships involve communication. By communication, I mean more than sweet talk, “what’s your favorite color”, and “do you want the lights on or off?”. Can this person hold a decent conversation(non via text)? And if you do text, how often does this person reply back with something other than “ok” or “oh”? Ok, maybe that’s a bit.much. Not every text reply can be something deep. 😂🤔

7. Why Do You Want This Relationship? You should want to be in a relationship with someone because you are mentally and physically attracted to them. If you can connect with them spirituality, then that is a plus. In my opinion having God in a relationship is the best assurance that it will thrive. The wrong reasons would be because: 

  • Everyone else has a boo.
  • A bet made by peers.
  • A person’s money.
  • A person’s title/social status;
  • A person’s power. 
  • Trying to make someone else jealous.

Whether you decide to be in a relationship with somebody is entirely up to you. But I encourage you to take some time to think before making any rash decisions. God bless, and have a good day!

By David Harris

I was born on January 31, 1992. I graduated from Austin Peay State University in December 2015 with a B.S. My major was Communications, with a concentration in Print & Web Journalism. My minor was English, with a concentration in Creative Writing. Writing is my passion. I’m a book lover. I prefer to to be called a Booklion rather than a bookworm. Why- lions are mightier.
My first love is Jesus Christ. I was raised in the Seventh-Day Adventist Church. No we are not a cult. We are Christians who worship on Saturday.
I have been stuttering since I was four, but through Christ I have persevered through it and will continue to do so. I’m not thing with Him.
Singing is another passion of mine. God blessed with me with the gift of song, which I am grateful for.

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