A couple months ago, my sister- in-law showed me and a couple other family members a group table talk about why people don’t come to church. As informative as that was, I couldn’t help but think about myself rather than others. I ask myself, “Why do I go to church?”.
If you ask someone why they don’t attend church you’re going to get a variety of answers as to why they don’t come. Depending on you, these responses may seem understandable while others seem asinine.
The downside to table talks about this particular topic is that the person voicing their opinion is likely not going to change their mind about coming. Often times they just want to rant about why they don’t like church and God. Then, if you are the type of person who can’t accept that other people have opinions, you are going to debate with them and get frustrated. It’s not worth losing your composure. The biggest two reasons , which I sympathize the most with at this time are that someone is in mourning, and the other reason being that we are currently in a pandemic which effects health.
Losing a loved one, especially someone so close, takes something from a person. They may never move on from that pain. Even if they do they are never the same as they were. In regards to the pandemic, it is fair for one to take their health into consideration. The reality is that not every church goer thinks of their own well-being or anyone else’s. Not everyone wishes to wash their hands; keep a 6 foot distance; wear a mask; or take vaccines. So why should anyone need to put their lives in danger just to sit through a service? There is such a thing as online church. I wish every church would do this so they wouldn’t lose its members, but not all churches can or are willing to go with the online church service.
One reason I hear often is that there are fake people in the church. There are fake people in the job places, yet that doesn’t stop us from showing up for work so we can pay our bills and support our families. We simply ignore them and do our jobs. There are fake people in school, but we still go to get an education which in the long run can help us get high paying jobs. We are not obligated to befriend whomever is bothering us, nor do we have to pay attention to what this person says on social media. Seriously, why we give these trouble makers our attention by looking online?
I believe it easy to turn our noses up at church because nobody is paying us to show up, and we’re not paying to be there. Unless you are a child who typically has to yield to your parents’ rules, church is entirely voluntarily. Assuming everyone can drive and nobody is being forced to stay home; at the end of the day it is a choice. In the words of John Locke from the television series Lost, “Who are we to tell anybody what they can and can’t do?
Maybe we the church goers need to let these people be. Should we turn our backs on them-of course not. Maintain a communication with them, only if they want, and pray for them. You don’t even have to let them know you are praying for them. For Christ knows what we do in love. I wouldn’t bring up the topic again for the sake of wearing yourself and them out.
I was brought up by my mother and father to attend. Even when I reached 18(legal adult age) I was still obligated to go because my parents had a spoken rule: Everyone in this house goes to church.
Now as an adult and living within my own walls, these are all the reasons I can think as I why I go:
- I got problems. I feel spiritually sick and therefore need to be in the place that can treat me. God is everywhere, but a church is definitely a place where you’re going to get a lot of spiritual vibes.
- Being around other people who are spiritually sick and spiritually wanting reminds me that I am not alone.
- It gives me the opportunity to be ministered to by others who may have some knowledge that I haven’t discovered yet.
- I need somewhere I can pay my tithe, for the money I make is not by my strength alone. Who gave me my job?
- It gives me the tools I need to tell others about this divine being which I claim to love and believe in so much.
Don’t trouble yourself, at least not too often about why others don’t go to church. God may have a plan in store that we can’t see. Ask yourself once in a while, “Why do I go to church?”.