After 50 years the Supreme Court has kicked Roe. V. Wade to the curb. This decision means that each of our 50 states can decide for themselves whether abortion is be legal or illegal in their state. Within the past 24 hours I’ve seen countless TikToks; Instagram stories; Tweets; and Facebook posts by women and men outraged, disappointed or afraid of this decision that didn’t seem possible. From former First Lady Michelle Obama down to my peers expressing their disgust and disappointment.
When I first learned that the right to an abortion was at risk, I thought, Should any male(person without a uterus) of any race; nationality; sexuality; religion; age; political party be making this decision about a woman’s body and what she can or can’t do with it. Unfortunately for many citizens our government was founded by Caucassian men professing to be believers, while their actions towards anybody different from them says otherwise.
Some of you who know me must be thinking, But don’t you identify as Christian? How can you even sympathize with those who have or would get an abortion. As much as I’d like it if everyone believed in God, I have come to accept that not everybody can be a Christian. It’s not an easy lifestyle or just not for the next person. I’m not going to bark scripture in someone’s face thinking I’m reaching them. The best thing I can do is think about what I’m doing. Is my own relationship with God a good one? Let us remember also that there are women in denominations who have gotten abortions for various reasons or who honestly can’t say what they would do in future scenarios.
Men, specifically the unmarried men, I understand we have a hand in creating life. This ability seems taken for granted as there are some of us who are contempt with knocking up all the women we want and not being present in a child’s life. We will never have the blessing/burden of carrying a life for months. All we can do for our women is to be at their side along the way and be present in our child’s life once they are in the world, when we are privileged with caring for them. I have never been a father, but from observing my own father and other parents period, I firmly believe that parenthood is more than DNA; titles; and paying child support.
Men, if you are going to have sex before marriage- that’s between you and God- I encourage you to use contraception. Don’t be arrogant or lazy. We are not immune from STDS’s and parenthood. We should have been educated on pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases by our parents or an educator. Male contraception is available on shelves for cheap prices in almost every grocery store, while women have to spend extra dollars for procedures just so they don’t get pregnant. As of now your partner may no longer have access to an abortion should things not go the way you both intend. If you truly care about your partner’s life do what you can to not put her in such a position. If that is too complicated and you are unmarried, maybe the best method is to wait until marriage.
I know the goal is to prevent the death of unborn babies, but this decision is no guarantee that a child is not going to be stillborn or die by miscarriage. The health of the female must also be taken into account. There are females who have gone to sleep in child birth. According to an article on the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, by 2020 “861 women were identified as having died of maternal causes in the United States.” Is it selfish for a person to want to save their own life?
Even if doctors of some states are not authorized to do the procedure, people are going to take matters into their own hands if they don’t want a child. Women are going to hurt themselves, and it won’t be so shocking if men try to take matters into their own hands, as we’ve already seen by this decision of the Supreme Court. We as human in moments of desperation will resort to almost anything. Look at our history.
Forced parenthood doesn’t seem pleasant for the child. We run the risk of a child growing up in a household where they will not receive the nurturing, attention, and love they should be receiving simply because their parents felt obligated to have them.
The same people who support this decision of Roe v. Wade being overturned are the same people who in the future are going to be furious and murderous should their daughter become pregnant before marriage because of a consensual choice or because of rape.
Personally, I wouldn’t want to have an abortion done, and I pray I never have to be put in that situation. What you yourself do is entirely up to you and between you and God.
I think the Supreme Court or whomever needs to rethink this decision because there are too many risks; possibilities; and consequences to make a decision that affects everybody. I’m not a preacher; philosopher; nor a saint. I’m merely a person who enjoys having rights to live how I want.
DavidSpeaks 