Two weeks ago, I went shopping for a birthday gift for a friend. I spent about ten minutes in the jewelry section looking around pondering what she’d like. Finding gifts for a woman isn’t easy at all by the way. I asked the clerk if they had any belly button jewelry. She asked if I had my belly button pierced, which made me laugh. She was relieved when I told her I was looking for it for a friend. She went on to ask if this person I was getting jewelry for was my wife. Odd, since I clearly said “friend”. I told her no and even explained that jewelry was my friend’s thing and that I don’t even wear rings. She then replied, it doesn’t mean you’re not married.
The words “jewelry” and “marriage” got me the thinking of how some people in my church don’t believe in wearing jewelry because of what scripture says.
“In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array;”- 1Timothy 2:9, King James Version
Then there are some people in the church who do wear jewelry, such as wedding rings. Out of all man made treasures, the wedding ring is perhaps the most debatable one in the church. To wear or not to wear a wedding ring, that is the question?
“I feel that wearing a wedding ring is a personal choice,” said Bianca Joseph, Whole Foods Market worker”. “It symbolizes a lot of things, especially marriage. I personally want one because I like it and it will make me feel connected with my husband if I ever should get married. It will show how much we care about each other and it will represent our special type of style and it is something that we will give to each other.”
But Bianca would would not force anyone to or not to get one, she said. She said she feels it is everybody’s personal choice, she doesn’t feel like people should be told not to have one because it is a form of jewelry.
” It’s not to be worshiped or worn just because. It is worn to symbolize that someone is no longer single and has found their life partner. There is no way for someone to wear a wedding band and someone not know that they aren’t married or taken. That is all that it represents so I feel that it is a pretty good symbol.”
I have never seen my parents with rings on their fingers. From what they told me, they removed all jewelry when they were baptized into the Seventh- Day Adventist Church in the 1980s. From what I’ve observed over the years, they appear to be happy without their rings and have no regrets removing them. Regarding people, the two simply inform others that they’re husband and wife. Also, people can tell my parents are married because of their interaction with one another and the fact that they live together.
“If a couple decides not to wear a wedding band let it be their choice that they hopefully come to believe together,” said Joseph. “Let them still feel happy, and if anyone ask them if they are together it shouldn’t have to be shown through a ring. People should be able to see, recognize, and be able to tell that they have someone special in their life. That’s why I feel wedding rings are free of choice as long as you follow certain guidelines like not worshipping and respecting it and respecting god. It’s all good.”
Though I’m not into any piercings or wearing the latest ice, I could see myself wearing the wedding ring for three reasons:
- To show my love for whomever I end up with.
- To let others know without speaking that I have a life partner.
- To disuade any wanting eyes, other than those of my spouse.
Yet at the same time it would not kill me if I wouldn’t have a wedding ring, because I simply was not brought up to wear bracelets; rings; necklaces; or any type of body piercings.
Also, I don’t believe wedding rings should be worn for vanity. If you’re wearing it just because it looks good on your finger, how is it any different than any other ornament that you sport? If it’s for vanity then you might as well take it off if doesn’t go with one of your daily outfits.
It is my opinion that if the ring is to be worn it should be worn as a way to show you have someone and that you belong to someone. If somebody sees the ring and tries to come at you anyway with certain intentions, just let them know verbally that you are taken.
In the end, the wearing of the wedding ring is entirely up to you and your spouse. What are your thoughts on the wearing of the wedding ring?
Shoutout to my best friend Bianca Joseph for giving me her awesome feedback. Love you!